Toys For Naughty Boys!

Part 1 - Prostate Probes

Many of my callers enjoy adding some props and toys to their experience during our calls.In particular, many callers enjoy a bit of prostate or anal play. There's nothing wrong with wanting to insert something into your ass, and many man find it highly pleasurable, but please choose something that is safe to use--not the end of a hairbrush or the handle of a screwdriver!  Fingers are great but can only reach so far, and only have so much girth. Not to mention that it's hard to get the smell of ass off of your fingers.  Some men fear that using a dildo in their ass may make them gay. A dildo or plug in your ass is also no more likely to make you gay than it would make a lesbian straight.  I have selected many items in my affiliate store, based in their quality, durability, as well as the use of body safe materials that can be sterilized.

If you are a beginner to anal play, I highly recommend that you start with a small, silicone toy. For most guys, their eyes are bigger then their ass--so my advice is to go smaller than you think you can handle..All anal toys should have a flared base to keep the toy from being sucked up into your ass!    I have selected toys that are made from nonporous materials that you can sterilize, such as silicone, stainless steel, aluminum, hard plastic,  or glass.  Most of these toys can be cleaned using antibacterial soap or sterilized by boiling or by cleaning with 10% bleach or hydrogen peroxide, but always check the manufacterer's cleaning instructions.   Each material has its own unique properties such as smoothness, weight, and ability to retain heat or cold, and these should be considered when selecting a toy. I'll go over these properties briefly:

• Silicone - can be soft and pliable or fairly firm depending on the type of silicone used.  Some toys feature two types of silicone to replicate a "realistic" feel,  and are known as 'dual density' toys. Silicone can be slightly cold at room temperature but can be warmed up by putting the toy under your arm or by running warm water over it.  Though smooth, silicone should be well lubricated as it has some drag to it.  There are exceptions, but generally use water based lubricants with silicone toys--silicone lubricants can degrade the silicone in the toy unless the manufacturer recommends otherwise. Silicone is also notorious for collecting lint, so it's advised to keep your toys in a box or plastic bag. 
• Stainless steel and aluminum. Metals can be cold at room temperature.  Metal toys can be quickly warmed by running the toy under warm water, or even intentionally heated or chilled in the freezer.  Stainless is heavier than aluminum and the weight is part of its appeal.  The surface is extremely smooth, and is compatible with all  lubricants. 
• Glass - Glass toys are made from borosilicate glass, popularly known by the trade name Pyrex.  It is  shatter resistant, and you'll find that these toys are not fragile and are very safe for insertion. Like metal they can be cold at room temperature, but can be warmed under warm water.  You should avoid extreme changes in temperature to avoid breakage.  Like metal, glass is also very smooth, fairly weighty and is compatible with all types of lubricants.
• Hard Plastic. Often toys are made from ABS plastic. Some hard plastic can be  porous, and if so, it may not be sterilized or shared unless you cover it with a condom. Hard plastic is lightweight, smooth, and doesn't tend to be cold at room temperature.  Hard plastic can be used with all types of lubricants. 

Plugs and prostate stimulators are inserted and worn--they are not thrust in and out like a dildo.  If you think you would enjoy clenching around a toy that is left in place, a plug or prostate stimulator is for you. For a beginner, I recommend that you go with a smaller, silicone toy such as the Fun Factory Bootie   if you desire something a bit soft, or a hard plastic prostate stimulator such as the Aneros if you want something firmer.   Glass and metal plugs such as the Njoy Pure Plug (the medium is fine for most anal n00bs) can be an excellent choice if you enjoy temperature play or don't mind warming the toys prior to insertion.   If you're unsure about the size, you can always try out an this economy set of 3 plugs by Trinity Vibes

If you want the sensation of being fucked, you'll want to go with a dildo.  Made of silicone, the Tantus Silk comes in three sizes and  is completely smooth, can be used with a strapon harness.  The Vixen Mistress is slightly larger, but still slim, and a good choice for a beginner.  If you're wanting something a little more realistic, a dual density toy like  the Vixen VixSkin Spur   or the larger Tantus 02 Adam may be good choices. If you'd like your dildo to have balls, then something like the Vixen VixSkin Johnny might be a good fit. 

Look through my affiliate store and see if anything might fit nicely up your ass!  I appreciate your support through your purchases.  Once your new toy arrives, call me on NiteFlirt and I'll help you find creative ways to use it.  

Miss Betty, Are You a Real Domme or a Pretend Domme?

An open letter to a caller who wishes to learn to serve. 

This afternoon,  a first time caller to my hypnosis listing called me, using an approach that I almost always find offensive. He was interviewing me, inquiring about whether I really enjoyed the the interests I've written about in my listings, or if I was pandering. For the record, I thought it might be useful to post a modified version of the email I sent to him later in the day. 

Dear caller, 

I was thinking about our discussion this afternoon.  You seem like a bright guy who is seeking a genuine experience, but I'm not sure that your approach is going to get you what you're wanting--on NiteFlirt, or anywhere.  

If someone calls me, and I don't think that we'll get along, the call doesn't last very long. You've experienced this yourself.  I was, however, impressed by how respectfully you ended the call. Most guys just hang up. Instead, you very graciously thanked me for my time. So that's why I'm writing.

 I think that you're trying, but I'm not so sure you're in the right mind frame to find a truly dominant lady  vs. someone who is pretending to be one.  You almost demanded that I prove myself not to not be disingenuous. You're smart enough to know that on NiteFlirt, which is a pay-to-play phone sex experience, any woman you call is likely to bend herself to your needs to win your business.  I could have very easily identified your desires and told you what you wanted to hear.  If you find a Mistress who does, more power to her, and good luck to you learning to serve, as you'll have a very top-from-the-bottom experience.  As it should be---you are, after all, paying for it, right?  

NiteFlirt is filled with women who have inexpensive rates and anything goes types of listings. I am not one of them. My listings are on very specific topics. My rates are par with other competent, intelligent NiteFlirt Mistresses. My feedback is consistently excellent from a variety of regular, articulate callers.  Like any person who works for a living, I do my job for a variety of reasons--that I happen to enjoy it  comes through. I like to think that I might be good at it.   I have very deep, lasting and fulfilling relationships with some of my regular callers.    

So when you asked me about whether I was pandering,  I found the question to be insulting.   "Miss, prove to me that you're not just doing this kind of work for the money" is what I heard.  See the conundrum?   And no, you weren't that direct, but you were pretty close to it.  

The last thing you said to me, before thanking me for my time (and again--that was very refreshing) was: "Perhaps I like to dream."  Please do. Phone sex is land of fantasy, smoke and mirrors. Don't go poking about and asking phone Dommes if they are truly firm behind their corsets.  If you like the way that she presents, submit yourself-- try a session.  You will have a much more enjoyable time, you'll learn more, and you'll learn to serve much more quickly.  The callers who see what's behind my corset are the ones who take the time to invest themselves with me, the ones who truly submit--the ones who approach me with a high level of respect, right from the outset.

You asked me what kind of submissive I enjoy--and to answer: one who is aware of his desires and who presents himself as such.   Try: "Miss, I am a submissive male interested in the following: [.... ]. Do you think that I might be suited to serve you?"

Talk for a while. Get to know me.  You may be surprised at how real I am.  

Betty

Gay Affirmations

Condition Your Desire for Cock

Affirmations are a powerful way to bring about the changes you seek in your life, or they can reinforce your desires.  An affirmation can be as simple as a post-it note placed on your mirror, affirmatively stating the idea you'd like to effect.  To reinforce the affirmation, it helps to say it aloud.  

While I believe strongly that we are born the way we are,  conditioning exercises can help you accept your true nature and help overcome societal pressures to conform to heterosexual norms.  

Some examples of gay affirmations:

• My attraction to men is a beautiful thing.
• I am gay and perfect the way I am. 
• I love being gay

Here are some naughtier affirmations:

• I love the taste of jizz
• Cock feels great in my mouth.
• My ass aches to be fucked by a man with a big, fat cock. 

Gay Affirmation Challenge: Write Your Own Gay Affirmation. 

Write your affirmation on a post-it note and place it on your mirror, or in some other location that you view regularly. Practice saying it aloud. Share! Post your gay affirmation here in the comments section.    

Remember:

1. Affirmations should always be stated as a positive idea--one that is true or that you wish to be true. 
2. Always state your affirmation in the present tense. 
3. Keep affirmations short so that they are easy to remember.
4. Relax and let go of any tension as you say your affirmations aloud. 
5. Repeat affirmations several times per day, but only when your mind is not occupied by any other task, such driving, or walking.  Make time for your affirmations.  

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Are you as Gay as Berri The Fairy?

Please note! Berri is they type of caller who eroticizes, enjoys and requests humiliation and exposure. I am bisexual. I would never seriously ridicule someone for being gay or bi. However, for a lot of callers, the social stigma around homosexuality emphasizes it as a taboo, making it feel even dirtier. If you're struggling with your sexual identity, please trust that you can call and be understood with respect and sensitivity.

One of my NiteFlirt callers, known as Berri Gay, has requested that he be "owned" by me. I'm all for it. Why? Well I could use a little sissy fag like Berri to paint my toenails, and do all my chores. I already know what a pervert he is, so if I ever have a man's cum in my panties, or on my sheets, I know that Berri will "pre spot" the fabric by licking it clean first. It's okay--I hear saliva is a wonderful enzymatic cleaner for organic protein stains, and if that's the price I must pay for clean laundry, so be it.

However, now it's up to Berri to come up with his end of the deal. You see, every time Berri calls, he sings me a little song that goes like this:

I'm Barry McKay the Fairy Fag and I want Brett to make me gag.

Well I admit, I don't remember all the lyrics. That's why I want Berri to make a little video of himself, using a cell phone or whatever and send it to me to post up here on my blog. I want him in a dress and earrings, singing the song for us. And he needs to pony up with the lyrics.

Every time Berri calls me, he seems surprised that I remember him. Well, Berri is sort of like an annoying little bit of sand that gets stuck in your sandal--even though it's small, you notice it. Luckily Berri is more amusing than annoying, except when he hangs up in shame, after you remind him that you know a lot about him--enough to hunt him down and really embarrass the shit out of him, if you wanted to. I'd much rather that Berri admit that he likes the humiliation and step up to the plate and just offer me what I want.

What do you think? Do you want to see/hear Berri singing his faggy little song? Do you have a faggy song about yourself to sing? Or is there something, like Berri that you do that qualifies as exceptionally gay?

Betty's Bawdy Back-to-School Special!

Naughty School Boy Fantasies?
Are you hot for teacher?
You may have noticed my absence over the past week or so. I've not been around as often as I'd like! Did you miss me?

As fall approaches, the school year begins, causing some adjustments to my schedule. If I am not available when you would like, send me an email either at NiteFlirt or here on gmail to schedule an appointment!

I'm teaching a few classes this term. Being back at school, in late August when the weather is still hot and everyone is wearing skin baring clothes--a nice sheen of sweat glistening off their toned, tan bodies--well, it got me thinking about some naughty school boy fantasies.

So imagine having me as your teacher, for, say, "Human Sexuality." Perhaps you would need to come to my office to get some clarification on a few topics that are evading you. I suggest that perhaps you would learn better if I offered a demonstration.

Or maybe you've been slacking off all term, thinking that you'd get by on your good looks. I can appreciate a hot body and handsome face, but if you want to get a good grade, you're going to have to prove to me that you have a deep and comprehensive knowledge of the subject. Of course, you will be expected to perform well on the mandatory oral.

Here are some of the topics on this term's syllabus:

• Masturbation
• Sexual Fantasies
• Sexual orientation, including bisexuality and homosexuality
• Kinky sex: Bondage, Dominance and submission, Sadism and masochism, BDSM
• Sexual Deviation: fetishes and paraphilias
• Cross Dressing: Do you know what it feels like for a girl?
• Pegging, or harnesses, lube & strap-on dildos, oh my!
• Polyamory, group sex, swinging, open relationships & cuckholding
• Erotic Humiliation
• Penis size - is it significant?
• Prostitution

What would you do to make the grade?

Those Really Dirty Fantasies

Last night I had a rather long call with a caller I've spoken with once before--I'll call him Jason. Jason, like many of my NiteFlirt callers, is happily involved in a relationship, but has found himself alone on a few nights, and feeling full of sexual energy. Like many of the men I speak with, he's sensitive, articulate, highly intelligent, and full of desires that he's not entirely comfortable expressing. For Jason to talk about his desires to "slap a woman in the face" with his "massive hard cock" or to refer to women as "sex slaves" or "sluts," is truly a challenge--it simply isn't in Jason's considerate world view. For him to objectify his own sex organs, as well, doesn't sit well with him, intellectually. But, it turns him on.

"Is this okay, Betty?" he asked me during our call, as we perused photos together of "monster cocks" and women with enormous breasts through Google image search (with safe filtering off). I reassured him that exploring our baser desires is exactly what phone sex is all about.

I found myself unusually aroused by the call. I'm not submissive, and throughout the call, I wasn't put in a submissive role. If anything, I was guiding Jason through his exploration of dominance. It reminded me of the unsure footing I felt when I first took on the role. It reminded me of how absolutely filthy it felt to objectify and use another person for my pleasure. And how expressing these kinds of desires can reveal a vicious, primal side of ourselves that we may not feel entirely okay claiming.

Do you have desires that you're not completely comfortable exploring? I hope you'll consider calling me!

Please remember that I have limits, and NiteFlirt has rules. Under no circumstances will I discuss or speak with anyone under the age of 18 (not even in the context of a memory). In addition, I cannot talk about or role play a relative (blood or step), nor will I have anything to do with calls involving: age play, animals, excrement, vomit, mutilation, racism, or any variety of nonconsensual sex.

Quiz: Am I Gay, Bi, or Just Curious

Erotic Hypnosis

A lot of you guys are curious about erotic hypnosis, and I don't blame you!  You've probably wondered about what it would be like to have your mind controlled after seeing hypnosis used in a sexy movie or TV show, like True Blood, where gorgeous vampires "glamour" their potential victims into doing their bidding. It's really any submissive's dream! Hypnosis gives the dominant all of the control, leaving the submissive with none of the culpability!

Hypnosis is nothing more than making suggestions to the mind while the body is in a deeply relaxed state--sometimes known as a trance. No two hypnosis sessions are alike, and no two hypnotists work exactly the same way. Still, I'd like to give you a general idea of what you might expect during a hypnosis session with me. I start by making sure that you're completely comfortable.

Preparing for your hypnosis session

Make sure that the room is a pleasant temperature, and that you're resting comfortably, in a recliner or in your bed. If you choose to wear clothes, they should be loose fitting and soft. Ideally, you'll use a headset so that you won't have to worry about holding a phone to your ear. Also this leaves your hands free for other things--things I may command you to do once you're in a trance. Lastly, make sure you've purchased adequate time on NiteFlirt for your hypnosis session. At the very minimum, I recommend 40 minutes for a first time session; subsequent sessions can be shorter--20 or 30 minutes.This is a special time for you to relax, so indulge yourself. If you're new to NiteFlirt, you'll get 3 free minutes!

I'll ask you to tell me your goals, desires and expectations for your hypnosis session. Be prepared to tell me what it is you truly desire from the session--even if you fear that it may not be possible and that it's just a fantasy. If you simply want to wake up naked, having had an orgasm, that can be easily achieved. If you're a man who has always wanted to know what it's like to feel like a woman, tell me all about your ideal feminized self--what she looks like, how she behaves, and how she feels about it. Of course, if you leave it open to me, be forewarned that I can be very mischievous, and you may end up having done (or may continue to do) some strange things! Consider the cautionary tale of the caller of a Flirt friend of mine, Sweet Mistress Sara! If this sounds a little scary, remember that the subconscious mind, the part of your brain that's in control during hypnosis, won't allow you to do anything that you wouldn't truly want to do.

Now, to begin!..

I talk you through a process known as progressive relaxation starting from your toes and moving up to your head, telling you to breath deep, inhaling and exhaling, while you tense and relax different parts of your body. Once you're fully relaxed, and pain and tension are minimized in your body, it's much easier to gain cooperation from your mind.

From here, I use guided imagery, describing a rich sensory experience, to bring you into the desired type of trance. Your relaxed mind is so prone to suggestion that many people report that they actually felt or experienced the situations described while under hypnosis, even though they may not have actually happened in any place other than your imagination. While under a trance, I may implant trigger words or concepts to condition a particular behavior, often to deepen hypnosis for a future session. I may also bring you out of your trance, perhaps to discuss a particular goal or to add more time, and then have you re-enter it (all with your consent), this time deepening the hypnotic state. This is known as fractionation.

The hypnosis session ends by bringing you out of your trance, awake and aware of the world around you. Unless you request otherwise, you will remember the details of the session. You should be able to go about your day as you normally would, although you may need to take a shower, and put your clothes back on!

Dare to enter the world of erotic hypnosis?

Welcome to My Blog!

Hey Guys! I'm pretty new on NiteFlirt so I figured I'd start a blog to share some naughty news. I hope to keep you posted and maybe even share some naughty stories with you here! If you have one you'd like to share, give me a call on NiteFlirt!